51. Tell The Story Of What You Want, Not What You Have

When someone asks you how you are,  what do you say?  When someone asks how your day was,  what is your answer?  Do you immediately begin the story of what has gone  wrong in your life lately?  Or, tell the story of what body part is hurting the most that day?  Or, do you talk about the good things that have happened!?  Do you tell them about the exciting things you are doing in your life?  Tell the story of what is going good in your life,  not what is going wrong.  Tell the story of what you want,  which may not necessarily be what you have.   Besides,  most people who ask,  are just making conversation,  and they may not want to spend twenty minutes standing with their cart of groceries in the aisle at Wal-Mart, while you fill them in on every detail of your life,  just because they asked you a question.

You don’t have to lie,  or make up a story.  Just change the way you talk about your life.  The more you focus and talk about the good stuff,  the more the good stuff happens!  Ignore the bad stuff as much as possible.  If you are having a tough time with very little money, don’t talk about how you have more bills than money. Talk about how you are expecting to hit the lottery any day now!  Or,  maybe how you are planning on saving up some money to pay off those bills.  Talk about how you are doing fine,  you will have enough money for everything you need and want, even if it’s not actually true yet.  Think in terms of positive, not negative.  The Universe will eventually catch up with your positive thoughts and you will find your money problems disappearing.  Try it!  What could it hurt?  You might have heard about the actor Jim Carey,  and how he wrote himself a check in 1987, for ten million dollars.  He dated it for Thanksgiving of 1995.  He believed that he would somehow make that much money,  even though he was not a famous actor at that time.  He made a notation on the check that it was for acting services rendered.  He finally made that amount when he was cast in the movie Dumb and Dumber,  in 1994.

If you continue to talk about the horrible job you hate,  and think about it,  the Universe only hears what you don’t want.  When you talk, and think about your medical problems, daily, the Universe hears about how bad you feel.  I don’t really mean literally,  there are invisible ears everywhere listening to everyone.  But, what you think and talk about, you set into motion,  and those things are manifested into reality in your life.  So,  you should talk about what you want to feel like.  Not necessarily what you do feel like.  Talk about the job you want to have,  and what you want in your life.  Thoughts turn into things.  Although,  it’s easier said than done.  I get that. It takes practice.  It takes becoming aware of what thoughts are floating through your mind.

When you think about wanting more money,  are you thinking about how you don’t have enough money?  Or,  are you thinking about how good it will feel when you have the money?  What ever you are focusing on, is what you will end up with.  Pay attention to your thoughts.  Try to notice when you are thinking thoughts about what you don’t want in your life,  and quit!  Try to think in the positive (how you will feel when you have what it is you want), and not the negative (not what you don’t have).

Tell the story of what you want.  People may disagree,  but,  I believe in the theory that focusing and talking about what you don’t want,  is just the way to receive more of what you don’t want.  There has been a war on drugs for as long as I can remember.  It seems to me that the more we have talked about how horrible drugs are and how we need to somehow stop it,  the worse it gets.  First it was just a war on marijuana,  it seemed.  We had the whole, Just Say No, campaign.  Now we have an opioid epidemic.  And, mobile meth labs in Wal-Mart restrooms.  Certainly no one would say that things,  relating to the drug problem,  have gotten better.  They have quite obviously gotten much worse, if you can believe the news reports.  It seems that focusing on the problem with drugs has only led to more of a problem with drugs.  And,  as it turns out, marijuana may just do more good than harm.   It can be used to help people with pain and many health problems.  Who knew?  But, I digress.

Don’t follow the advice in the video above.  I love Heart,  but don’t tell it like it is!  Tell it like you want it to be!  Then expect those stories to become your reality.  Start out small.  If you run into me and ask me how I am doing,  you will probably hear, “okay“, or,  “fine“.  I can’t quite imagine,  “great”  yet,  but I’m getting there!  So, give positive thinking and talking a try.   Let your imagination go and watch what happens!

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38. At Least You’re Not A Zombie (if you are, sorry about your luck)

One of my all time favorite shows,  Santa Clarita Diet,  just started its second season on Netflix.   Oh Sheila and Joel,  I empathize with you!  I still say (as I did in my first post about this show) that while our issues are very different, Sheila and I have a lot in common.   At the end of season one,  Sheila found out that there was a possible treatment to help stop her from getting any worse.  Not a cure though.  There are now two possible treatments out there for people living with ALS.  The oldest treatment adds maybe a couple of months to your lifespan.  The newest one,  maybe that or more,  for some people,  for others it may not work at all.  Neither of these treatments stop PALS (people with ALS) from getting any worse,  it just slows the progression,  maybe.   I declined the old option years ago.  The new one would not work for me because it contains Sulfa,  which I am allergic to.  Oh well.  Such is life.  Sheila and her family have to search for their own answers and treatments,  because there are no researchers out there working on a cure for Zombism.  Many of us with ALS look for our own answers and treatments because even though we have researchers out there trying to find a cure,  they haven’t found one yet.  They have had enough time already.  I’m not sure what year the official search began, but the disease was first described as being Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis way back in 1874.

It is close to the one year anniversary of the start of my blog.  My first blog post was about comparing Zombism and ALS,  and about Santa Clarita Diet.  A year later,  Sheila and I are still hanging in there.  Still searching for a cure.  Still adjusting as we need to, to the changes in our life, to keep on keeping on.  We are still laughing,  and crying, along with the craziness that is our lives and our new normal.   Sheila and Joel are still together, surviving as a couple through all the changes in their lives,  as are my husband and I.   I  am pretty sure the divorce rate is even higher for couples when one spouse is struggling with a serious illness or some type of major issue.  If you have a spouse who stays with you after you are diagnosed with ALS, Pica (Google it), Cancer, or some such dreaded disease (Zombism), they instantly become saints in the eyes of pretty much everyone you will encounter.  Especially people who you don’t really know very well.  When they find out you are still married,  you hear an audible gasp,  and maybe even a “wow”!  “That’s so great”,  they will say, “that he/she has stuck with you!”   My husband and I always find it funny that people think anyone deserves praise for not breaking the vows that they took before God,  and usually everyone they know, to stick with their spouse in sickness and health.   I guess it’s just that when you take those vows,  you and your spouse are generally very healthy,  and you are not thinking about what might happen in the future.  You certainly would never guess that one of you might end up with ALS or wake up one day a Zombie.  But, it happens.  If you don’t believe one of those is true,  just listen to episode 26 of my all time favorite podcast,  Lore.

I haven’t seen them all yet,  but so far in Santa Clarita Diet, every episode has a surprise ending.  Similar to ALS,  where every day has a surprise in store.  Not always the good kind,  but not always bad either.  Sometimes things just fall into place for Sheila,  and she finds a new fresh meal where she least expects it.  More often than not,  I receive a surprise at some point in my day.  The Universe/God is always looking out for Sheila and I!   Sheila’s husband sometimes complains that she gets too messy when she eats.  My husband sometimes complains that it takes me too long to chew up my food.  I say it takes the right amount of time for me to not choke and die…one problem Sheila doesn’t have.  You know,  since she’s already dead.   Well, technically undead.

Sheila and I both think that our husbands complain a lot (see episode 4), and they claim that they don’t.  Sheila says it’s okay,  even if Joel complains,  because he gives up so much for her.  Joel says,  it’s not about what you give up,  but about what you get.  I think he’s right.  It’s not about what life takes from you,  it’s about what you get out of your life that’s important.   One thing is certain, Sheila and I are made of tough stuff.  As are most people living with ALS and most Zombies (I assume).  Life throws it’s toughest challenges at us and we do our best to dodge some of them, and survive the ones that hit us.  And,  we try not to complain too much while doing it.