No matter what’s going on in your life, one thing is for sure, you need to surround yourself with good energy. This means good times, good TV programs, good food, a good job, good everything, including people.
I had a friend that I spent some time with who I quickly discovered to be such a drain on my energy, I just couldn’t continue the friendship. After I found myself comforting her when she had a very public meltdown over the news of my diagnosis, I knew there was only so much I could handle at that time. While I understood that the news was upsetting, and glad she cared enough to be upset, I couldn’t help but feel like only a few days after receiving an ALS diagnosis, maybe she should have been the one consoling me. After several other incidents, a year or so later, I called it quits. I don’t think she ever understood, but I couldn’t be drug down by anymore negativity.
Some people go as far as not even reading news articles related to their illness. They don’t participate in support groups, whether they are in person or online. They feel drug down by all the negative discussion, acceptance, and expectation to continue to follow a pattern of decline in their health. I have to say that I agree. It can be hard to stay positive when chatting with people who have totally accepted their doctors dismal predictions for their future health. I participate in online support groups, but don’t spend a lot of time on them. I offer my support and opinions, but don’t often stick around for the whining. I know we all have our down days, and I do my share of whining, but I do what I can to keep my battery fully charged!
I try to keep the positive energy going by watching what I put out into the world. I am trying to be more careful about how I say things. For instance, I am trying to remember that I was diagnosed with ALS, I am not taking ownership of it by saying I have it. A little change, and you might think it makes no difference what words you use, but I believe it does. It’s such a small thing, why not change it? I also have revamped my Facebook newsfeed. I have unfollowed anyone who continually posts negative news and comments. I no longer follow everyone I am friends with who were diagnosed with ALS. I don’t like all the negativity. I feel much better these days, scrolling through my newsfeed.
I take a few minutes a day, when I first log onto my computer, and watch an uplifting video. Right now I’m watching Wayne Dyer daily. Do whatever you can, wherever you can to keep your positive vibrations going. No matter how small, it all adds up. I am right now sitting in an extremely messy RV, because we have not yet put anything up from our drive to our destination. But, I am trying to concentrate more on my beautiful view of the Gulf waters outside, than the mess surrounding me! Every tiny focus towards the positive helps. Try it, and see.