If you find yourself longing for the days when all you had to complain about was the weather, or how many cell phone sales calls you received that day, then you might find the need to make some drastic changes in your life to survive whatever it is that you are dealing with. In your pursuit of health, wealth, happiness, contentment, or whatever it is you are seeking, life might just get tough. If you have a serious illness, you may find yourself in situations in which you have little control. Your whole life can feel like you have no control over what happens. If someone else is caring for you, they might be awesome, but they aren’t you. They could be an amazing cook, but you might find yourself longing for the days when you chose your own menu. Eating whatever someone else thinks you want is not always appetizing. Or, maybe you are in a situation where you can’t even eat at all! I know many people who live with that as a part of their lives. Eating is just an example, out of the millions of situations you may find yourself. This is where living life like a Buddhist monk, or walking like an Egyptian (at least for entertainment purposes), might be helpful.
After all, you wouldn’t expect a Buddhist monk to get upset when things got tough, or didn’t go their way. They always seem to be at peace, at least in the books I’ve read, and movies I’ve seen. I think part of their trick in finding peace, is not to focus on the situations that make you feel out of control. If all you can think about, and worry over is in relation to food, for example, then don’t think about it. Yes, it is really just that simple, and that hard. Because, for instance, what’s the first thing you think about when I say, don’t think about a zebra!? Didn’t that make you think of a zebra? So, not focusing on something you don’t like isn’t always easy, but if you want the happiness and peace that is possible, you have to find a way to do it.
I have ALS. I don’t want to have it, I don’t like it, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about it. Even if I am not directly thinking about it, I’m thinking of something I want to do, or need assistance to do, because I can’t do it on my own, because of this thing in my life called, ALS. So, I’m constantly indirectly, or directly, thinking about it. One thing I just did to help myself stop focusing on it, was to change my Facebook newsfeed. Everyone complains about Facebook, and how much political commentary is on Facebook, and how many people are starting up arguments, and negative postings. Well, Facebook is whatever you make it. You have control over your newsfeed. You can make it what you want it to be. If all the people on your newsfeed are always arguing and posting political or general posts that you don’t approve of, then maybe you should unfriend those people, or unfollow them. You don’t have to read every post you see. If you don’t agree, keep scrolling. You don’t have to comment. I made changes to my Facebook. My newsfeed is a pleasant and uplifting space. I no longer see constant posts of people, who make lots of political posts, on either side of the aisle. I also no longer see posts from people who are suffering through their daily grind, living with ALS. I am sorry if they have had a bad day, but me reading about it is not helping them. I can still go to their pages and check in on them whenever I want. I have several family members and friends who’s posts I still see, but aside from that, I do not have to wade through the negativity.
We all need to feel like we have a voice and somewhere we can share with others, and Facebook is great for that. But, you have to know when it is not helping you, and causing you to focus on things you would be happier not focusing on. That goes both for Facebook and life in general. Make whatever changes you need in your life to be happy. If you think walking like an Egyptian might help, give it a try. It couldn’t hurt, and at the very least, it might make someone laugh or smile! My News Years hope for you all is that may you acquire more control over your life, and that you will be able to focus more easily on what you want, and not what you have.