44. Find Your Happy Place

What thoughts make you happiest?  Which places make you happy?  Do you have a space you can go to that makes you happy?  Find your happy place.  I have a selection of happy memories I can go visit anytime I want to.  A memory of holding my toddler on my lap and rocking her to sleep.  Memories of walking through the field behind my house where I grew up.  I walked through the field and woods with my dog almost every day in the summertime when I was a kid.  When I want to visit a happy place in my mind,  I remember my grandparents house.  I can remember every detail,  from the smell of motor oil wafting through the air as I would turn the brass doorknob to enter the garage,  to the smell of Wrigley’s peppermint gum filling the buffet cabinet where my grandmother kept her purse.  I can remember entering my grandparents house and I can remember the details of every room of their home,  the color of every wall,  and floor,  the sounds of the birds outside that I heard every morning when I woke up,  and the smell of every room.  What are your happiest memories?

Do you have a space in your house that makes you happy?  My chaise lounge chair is where I spend most of my time,  so I have around me some of my favorite things.   From my chair I can see the Jesus statue (my daughter calls him my Hippy Jesus, because his fingers are raised,  she thinks it looks like he’s giving the peace sign), that sat on my grandparents fireplace mantel as long as I can remember.  The clock that my grandfather made,  sits in front of me.  A few of my father’s,  and great grandfather’s marbles decorate the edge of my fireplace mantel.   I can see my bird feeders from my seat,  and the many beautiful birds that visit everyday.  Especially in the summer time,  with my windows open,  I can sit and watch and listen to them,  and smell the fresh air, and feel the warm breeze flowing through my room.  It is easy to be happy in the moment.  You should carve out at least one little corner of your home that you can go to and feel a sense of comfort,  and joy.

How about a song you love?  Or,  maybe music from a particular band or person.  Music has the power to make you almost instantly happy,  or sad,  depending on what songs you listen to,  and what they mean to you.

Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life. ~Berthold Auerbach

Everyone needs a happy place, or happy memory to think about when things aren’t going the way you would like them to.  A memory or place you can go that instantly brings you back into feeling happy,  or joyful.  To feeling good.  When you are having a bad day at work,  or whenever you are,  go somewhere private and think about your happiest memories.  They will make you forget about your problems for a few minutes,  and you will feel so much better.

 

 

 

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3. You Oughta Know 

This blog post seemed like a good one for all of the moms out there.  Happy Mothers Day!

When you are not able to easily make note of appointments, shopping lists, your kids busy schedules, etc., you rely on your memory. I am talking about when you physically can’t write anything down without the help of a switch or a computer eye gaze system, and not just because you can’t find a pen, or your phone. This is true for anyone who has trouble using their hands for whatever reason, but it’s  especially true if you are a mom. You should not only sharpen up your memory, but you will find that life is easier if you can practice your psychic skills as well. Because, believe me, it won’t matter if you are feeling so bad that you have been in bed for weeks, or if you haven’t physically been able to move your arms or legs in years… when your kid can’t find their left tennis shoe, or backpack, or whatever it may be, you will be the one they yell for. You are the one they will expect to help find it. So, if you can’t get up and go find it yourself,  you had better hope your psychic abilities kick in so that you can magically tell them where said item is located. Besides knowing where all personal belongings are located at all times, you will also be expected to know things like, are you out of Oreo’s? Do you have any orange juice in the fridge? It doesn’t matter if your wheelchair won’t fit in your pantry, or if you can’t physically open the door to your refrigerator. You are the mom and that means you ought to know.

This “you oughta know ” theory comes into play with husbands too. You may not be able to write a check, but you should somehow know where your husband put the checkbook. Also, are there any stamps left, and where are they? The list literally never ends.

What does any of this have to do with the Billy Joel video, you ask? Well, nothing, except that the lyrics, “you oughta know by now “, are in the chorus and kept running through my head as I wrote this.  Also, music makes everything more enjoyable!

So,  if you are dealing with a serious illness, you might want to start taking some Ginkgo Biloba. I  think that’s the herb that helps improve your memory. I probably oughta know that too.