26. Laugh. Even if you don’t feel like it.

 

Who says TV is bad for you?  I know I heard that somewhere.  Maybe it was just sitting too close to the television set that I was warned about?  Anyway, contrary to popular belief, I think television and movies can be good for you.  In the movie, What About Bob, Bob takes a vacation from his problems.  TV can offer a tiny vacation from your problems. A few minutes to laugh or solve a crime, and forget about that doctors appointment coming up,  or that test you have to take,  or whatever it is that you don’t really want to do.  And, for those of us who aren’t able to physically do much besides reading and surfing the internet, sometimes movies and television are all we have to keep busy.  Well  that,  and writing a blog will keep you pretty busy! 

When I could no longer do things with my kids that required physical movement of any kind,  watching TV was something we could do together. Each week when our favorite programs were on, they would actually come out of their rooms and spend a few minutes with their mother!  Even though they no longer live at home,  we still watch television and movies together.  My oldest daughter and I watch The Middle almost every week.  My youngest daughter and I try to catch up on Grey’s Anatomy most Friday’s when she comes over. 

The same day I received my third confirmation that, yes, I had what doctors considered to be a terminal, incurable, and untreatable disease,  my husband and I went straight to a movie theatre.  Why not, right? We both had the whole day off of work, why waste it being sad and depressed? I had, according to everyone “in the know” (neurologists), at the very least, a couple of years for that.   So, we went to see, There’s Something About Mary.   Definitely the most hilarious movie of 1998. So, when my mind would have normally been devoured by sadness, instead, I smiled and laughed for 119 minutes. Probably the best thing I could have done at the time.  

Now there are probably close to a million channels (okay,  not quite) to choose from,  streaming on Roku, Amazon Fire Stick,  etc..  Although there are way too many shows not worth watching,  there are some really great ones out there too.   You can now watch them anytime.  No more waiting all week,  or even all year to watch the annual showing of holiday programs or movies.   If you are stuck in a bad mood,  or feeling down, a funny movie or sitcom can be just the ticket,  to at least give you a break from the way you are feeling.  The more you can laugh,  the better you will feel.  I  promise.  Laughter  really,  sometimes,  is the best medicine.  So,  try it. The next time you are feeling down,  watch an episode of The Middle,  or find What About Bob on Netflix.   I  guarantee you will feel a little better!

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5. Poor Poor Pitiful Me 

While at a restaurant , my daughter and I were at the exit waiting for my husband to pay our bill. A man and his family entered the restaurant and saw us standing there. He immediately had a look of pity in his eyes and came over to me with an, “Awww…you poor thing…”, saying how sorry he was that I was in a wheelchair. He then went back to his family and continued to talk about that poor lady in the wheelchair! My daughter and I looked at each other and as the lyrics to Linda Ronstadt’s song,  “Poor Poor Pitiful Me” (Poor Poor Pitiful Me ) floated through my head, we both burst out loud in laughter! And, while I am really sure he thought he was being nice, the fact remains that he literally described me as, “that poor lady”. Wheelchair or not, neither I nor my daughter think of me in that way, and it just struck us as absolutely hilarious! There was a time when maybe I would have tried to contain my laughter, worrying about hurting his feelings, but not anymore. Sorry, not sorry dude, you met the post ALS me!

Incurably Happy Life

I was diagnosed at 31 years old with ALS . Otherwise known as Lou  Gehrig’s disease . Remember all those buckets of cold ice water everyone was dumping on their heads a few years ago? Yea, that was , at least in part, for me. It unfortunately has not yet led to our miracle cure, but that’s okay. I have found out that I can be just as happy living without muscles as I can with them! Okay, maybe not “just” as happy , but pretty darn close. In case you didn’t know, that’s what ALS basically means…your muscles slowly, or quickly, quit working. It truly sucks.

I was diagnosed back in 1998 , so I have been doing this awhile. People who are newly diagnosed always ask us old timers what our secret is to surviving past the general 2-5 years prediction so many doctors hand out. So I thought I would use this blog to help in anyway I could to share what I have figured out over the years . Or, at the very least, give you a laugh and a few minutes to forget about your problems.

Warning:

I was not an English major. Ignore my grammar mistakes and typos..I am typing this with a switch and my eyes! I also went to school way back when our school first got computers, so I am self taught and don’t know much about setting up websites, so this is a work in progress. Hope you enjoy!