My mother has a set of china in her china cabinet that I don’t ever remember her using. I’m sure she must have used it at some point, but I don’t remember ever seeing it out of the cabinet. We all seem to want to save things for a special occasion. But, I guess nothing ever seems special enough. Or maybe we just forget we have that good china because we never use it.
I have a set of real silver flatware that my grandmother gave me years ago. I use it at every birthday party and every holiday dinner. I don’t think I own any item that I wouldn’t use, aside from my great grandfather’s pipe. It has been well used, but not by me!
Everyone has something they are waiting to use or waiting to do. Waiting until the kids are grown, or the puppy is housebroken. Waiting until they’ve received that promotion, or until retirement. Waiting for something that may never come, or at least not in the near future. Why wait?
The same goes for indulging. You don’t order the dessert after dinner, because you feel like you really shouldn’t. You buy the kids each a new pair of shoes, but pass on a pair for yourself. Certainly if you are trying to loose weight, you probably want to skip dessert. Or , if you can’t afford another pair of shoes, don’t buy them. But, treat yourself in some way. Stop saving, stop waiting! Make an ordinary day special by using the good china, and what the heck, use the good silver too! Take that cruise this year. Don’t wait for retirement. And, open that special bottle of champagne even if you don’t get the promotion. Your life is now!
Find something to look forward to, a reason to get out of bed in the morning. It can be literally anything. It can be easier to keep yourself going through the hard days if you have something to look forward to, something you want to do or see. Something you don’t want to miss out on.
For me, the biggest thing has been my kids. When a doctor told me I had only a few years left to be with my family, I said, no (in my mind). I didn’t want to miss out on seeing my kids grow up. I just kept planning and looking forward to our lives like usual, only more so.
But it’s not just the big things that keep you going, it’s the little things too. Like planning on taking a vacation. Or maybe something as small as a new coffee frappuccino coming out at Starbucks next month. Something to actively plan for and look forward to.
My daughter got me to read one of the Harry Potter books, and that instantly gave me another thing to look forward to. I couldn’t wait to read the next book in the series, and the next, and the next, until I had read them all. And then there were the films based on the books to see and to look forward to. My ALS just had to slow down because I wasn’t going anywhere until I had seen all of the Harry Potter movies! I saw them all. That’s when the Powers That Be/God, lead me to Shonda Rhimes. Also known as the creator of some of the best shows on TV, and you guessed it, another reason for me to hang in there for one more season of, “How To Get Away With Murder “, “Scandal “, and “Grey’s Anatomy”. I’m not gonna miss out on what happens with Merideth Grey because of ALS! Ok, I am not saying that all you have to do to keep going when dealing with a serious illness is to find something to look forward to …but, focusing on something besides your illness is a huge piece in the puzzle. I am looking forward to seeing Alice Cooper in concert this summer, I don’t want to miss that. And on and on it goes. I am just going to keep on keeping on, and finding new things, both big and small, to look forward to for as long as I possibly can.