64. There Is Only Yes

There is only yes.  That is the way the world works.  It might have been nice if someone would have included this in my elementary school curriculum!  Why does no one  mention this?  Maybe that’s one of the long forgotten truths known to the people of biblical times.  I always thought that people of that time must have known things that we don’t know today.  You know, like the answer to how the pyramids were built.

Your life is made up of what you give your attention to.  All that you give your attention to,  both the things wanted and unwanted.  If you think about it, and put your focus on it, the Universe says yes, and you bring it into your reality.  Now, it is more complicated than that, but it is also just that simple.  It is not immediate,  for one thing.  Just because you think about cancer doesn’t mean you are getting cancer.  And, if you focus on getting the chair in front of you to move without picking it up and moving it, it really won’t move by itself!  Believe me, I’ve tried (you know because of the whole lack of muscles issue I have)!

The trouble begins when you decide what you don’t want, and don’t want it so much, that all you do is think about how much you do not want it, and put all of your attention on the thing that you really, really, really don’t want!  You may find yourself thinking about things that you don’t want, because, after all, you can’t know what you do want, until you know what you don’t want!  The Universe listens to you and sees what you are giving all your attention to, and it manifests in your life.  But, it is so very hard for us to not focus on the here and now, when it is so prevalent.  I do not want to be sick, but when I am feeling bad, and my illness seems to be in every aspect of my life, it is all I put my attention on.  It is hard to think about anything else.  If you have very little money, and all you want is more money… but all you can think about is how it is not fair that you work so hard, yet have little money… and you wish you had money… and you have never have had enough money…  and you have so many bills… and you need a new job, and if you could get a better job, maybe you could get more money, etc..  You are focusing on your lack of money.  You are focusing on what is.  You need to focus on what is, less of the time.  You can’t focus on what is in the present moment if you don’t want what is in that moment.  Does that make sense?  If you are able to put your attention on how great it will feel to have all the money you need, then your money will eventually come to you.  It doesn’t mean the money will magically fall from the sky (or maybe it will).   But, maybe you will suddenly come across a better paying job, and you will get hired.  Or maybe you will win the lottery.  You won’t know how the Universe will send money your way, but it will.  I know, it has happened to me.  I have literally had money appear out of blue.  Not just once, but several times, and all in different ways.  Now, if I could only get the good health to appear!  I know I’m on the right track, because I have survived for many years past what doctors told me was possible.

If this all sounds crazy to you, then don’t do it.  It’s that simple.  If your life is great, and you wouldn’t change a thing, then you must be doing something right.  But, if there are things you want to change, then focus on what you want to happen.  I believe life doesn’t have to be all struggle, and hard work to get what you want.  It can be as simple as focusing your attention on what you want to show up in your life.

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63. Find Your Bliss

One thing a serious illness will do, is help you get your priorities straight.  The more serious the illness, the faster you figure out what you want to spend your time doing.  When I was diagnosed, I think it took me all of 10 minutes to decide I didn’t want to spend 40 hours a week working.  I turned in my two weeks notice almost immediately. That all changed though, after I had spent several weeks at home.  After working 40 hours a week, running errands, managing a household, taking care of two young children, etcetera, suddenly having an extra 47 ½ hours (work hours,  plus commute time) a week was a tough adjustment.  So, after realizing how much I enjoyed my work, when the opportunity to work 20 hours a week came along, I went back to my old job.  As my illness progressed, and things changed, so did my work schedule.  I was lucky enough to have a job where I could work part-time,  and fortunate to work for a company who eventually set me up to work from home.  That was back when working from home,  online,  was not such a common occurrence.  In the last few months of work, I worked as a consultant and just checked in weekly.  Finely leaving for the second time, five years later.

You will hopefully find yourself spending the minimal amount of time possible doing mundane everyday tasks. Maybe having a perfectly spotless house won’t seem so important anymore.  You might find yourself doing things you would probably never have done before.  You might just walk through the rain shower to get to your car at the back of the parking lot, instead of running through it.  You may discover that you enjoy the time to yourself as you mow the yard.  I found out that I really didn’t mind cleaning my house, but also didn’t want to spend all my time doing it.  Many people who are diagnosed with serious illness, especially one without an easy fix, start searching for alternative treatments,  which generally takes up a lot of time.

Find your bliss.  Do what makes you happy.  While we all have to the mundane everyday chores, don’t spend all your time on those tasks.  If you dread Monday’s because you don’t want to go to work, maybe you need a different job.  What’s that saying, “If you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life”?  It’s true.  Dragging yourself to a job you hate day after day can literally drag you down. That means more sick days, and the chance for serious illnesses to creep into your life.  I think that’s why it’s possible for the barista at your local coffeehouse to live such a happy and healthy life, while the president of the local bank is dragging themselves out of bed and into that coffeehouse for a jolt of caffeine just to make it into their job at the bank around the corner.  They may be making more money, but the high stress job is making them unhappy.

The moral of this story, is that you don’t have to wait for an illness to strike before you take stock of your life and how much you are enjoying yourself.  Don’t wait.  Do it now.  Make changes if you need to, before you have to.    Follow your bliss.  The rest will take care of itself.  Just be happy, that’s really the most important thing there is in life.

60. Trust In The Process Of Life

Life knows what it’s doing,  we just have to have trust in it.  That’s the tough part for us.  Animals seem to have it down,  but we humans like to be in charge at all times.  Trust is a hard thing for most of us.  Life runs pretty well all on its own,  we just need to give it the space to do its thing.

I am trying to do that today.  Today,  because today my mom went to the hospital, very sick.  The local hospital which I have very little trust in.  But, I have to remember that the Universe / God /The Great Spirit has her back.  All I need to do is ask for healing (more to make myself feel good than God needs reminding),  and trust that it will happen.  I believe all the prayers sent up into the Universe will work.  It doesn’t matter what we ask for,  or how we ask for it.  I don’t think you have to kneel, or follow any certain procedure.  Just the fact that people are thinking about someone can do so much for them.  Sending good and loving thoughts is all it takes to make a difference in any situation.

Trust.  Stop worrying and wondering what might be or might not be.  Those thoughts just drag us down and do no good,  they serve no purpose.  They only slow down the good stuff,  the progress that you want.  Everything will work out,  if we only trust.  We have to remember that our schedule is only our schedule,  not that of the Universe.  We can’t see the future (well, most of us),  so we often don’t know what might be the best for us.  Hold fast to your dreams and wishes.  Think of them with love and happiness.  They will come. Know it.  Trust it.

49. Ch Ch Ch Ch Changes

 

Changes.  They are everywhere.  It seems that no one likes change,  unless you are talking about some nice change,  like a bonus at work, or winning the lottery.  But,  let’s face it,  changes usually involve something more along the lines of a health problem,  or maybe the transmission in your car goes out,  or some such extremely expensive thing.  Your significant other may move on without you,  you might lose your job, or something else similarly earth shattering happens.  Those are the changes we expect,  and receive with all too much regularity.  Sometimes those big changes that we hate the most,  end up being the best for us.  I have a friend who got divorced,  and while she had all kinds of mixed emotions about it at the time,  I think now, she would say it was the best thing she ever did,

But,  what if you try to embrace the change?  Can’t change be a good thing? Without change,  life would end.  Nature has it all figured out.  Nature embraces change,  or at the very least,  goes along with it,  as we all should.  What’s the point of going along kicking and screaming,  it’s going to happen anyway,  so you might as well find a way to accept it.  David Bowie had it figured out.  He said,  we should turn and face the strange.  Yes,  that’s right,  he said strange,  not change.  Aren’t changes all unusually strange at first?  Then,  as we begin to accept them and get used to them, we become okay with them.  Guess what happens next?  Yep,  another change!  Bam!  Over and over.  You would think we would get the hint after a while,  but we seem to be slow learners in general,  because we humans do everything we can to hold onto our traditions and stay in our patterns.   We do whatever we can to prevent change in our lives.

Changes.  Life might just go along a bit easier if we accepted change with a little more enthusiasm.  Nobody hates change more than someone with ALS.  Change for us usually means losing another muscle,  another ability gone down the drain.  But,  I try to go with the flow,  so to speak,  by coming up with some of my own changes.  I might do something,  like move all my furniture around,  or take a month-long vacation,  or something,  anything to shake things up a bit.  It won’t stop the changes I don’t want to happen,  but it might make it easier to accept change.  I know, it doesn’t mean much in the grand scheme of things,  but,  it’s a change.  What can you do to experience change on your own terms?  Try a new food?  Try a new hair style.  Learn a new language,  and then visit a country where they speak that language.  Switch jobs.  Do something different, anything different.  Start small,  and work your way up to the big changes.  Face the strange, and accept the changes.