58. Live Satisfied

 

The reason you want every single thing that you want is because you think you will feel really good when you get there. But,  if you don’t feel really good on your way to there,  then you can’t get there.  You have to be satisfied with what is, while you’re reaching for more.     –  Abraham Hicks

Be satisfied with what you have,  and what you want will come to you much more easily.  Let the Universe do all the work.  You just decide what it is that you want,  and go about your business being happy and grateful for what you have, and the Universe will do the rest.  Sounds too easy,  doesn’t it?  Well,  it’s really not,  for some reason,  easy for us to do.  We worry about when what we want will come,  and why hasn’t it come yet.  What are we doing wrong?  What if it never happens?  We forget to be grateful for what we already have.  And on,  and on we go,  where it will stop,  nobody knows.  Then,  we don’t get what we want because of all the worrying and obstacles we’ve put in the way,  and we think to ourselves,  well,  I knew that would never happen!  And,  the Universe is probably thinking,  well I could’ve told you that a long time ago.  Well,  no,  probably not,  because the Universe / God/ Spirit / whatever name you prefer,  is rooting for us to succeed.

We get in our own way so much of the time.  We don’t even realize that we are doing it.  Our negative thoughts flow through our mind, and we often don’t even notice that they are there,  because we are so used to them being there.  Thoughts of things we don’t want in our lives show up in our minds constantly and that keeps them in our lives.  Thoughts become things,  but that is a whole other blog post!

Being satisfied with what you have is similar to saying be grateful for what you have.  You can want more, yet be satisfied with what you have right now.  Always looking forward to more,  and better things and better situations.  But,  satisfied with the things and situations you are experiencing now.

I am satisfied with my level of health right now (yes,  I really am).  I am grateful for the abilities I have and am working on being satisfied,  while looking forward to my health improving at some point.  But where I get hung up is in the constant thoughts of illness that flow through my mind.  There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about my health,  and how I feel bad,  or focus on something I can’t do.  Just like a Facebook news feed,  thoughts scroll through our minds.  That’s fine,  if that newsfeed is filled with satisfaction, and things that you want in your life.  But,  if not,  then you are focusing on the wrong things.   You can’t focus on what you don’t want and get something else.  If you tune your radio station to 92.3 FM,  you aren’t going to hear what’s playing on 94.7 FM.  It just is impossible.  But for some reason, we don’t think that’s the case in life.  We want something and then think about the opposite of what we want,  all the while not being satisfied with what we have, and wonder why things aren’t going our way!

Practice paying attention to the news feed scrolling through your head.  Practice gratitude and satisfaction in your life. Talk about,  and think about the things you do want,  instead of the things you don’t want,  and see what a difference it makes in your life.

I decided to switch things up a bit,  and put the video at the end of this post.  Enjoy!

 

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57. Ordinary Days, Extraordinary Memories

We must learn to recognize the ordinary parts of life as the extraordinary moments that they are.   You know,  the 3:00 a.m. feedings,  the never-ending laundry and dishes,  the nights of no sleep, and on and on it goes.  It is all so ordinary,  and yes, it is also extraordinary.  It only,  unfortunately,  becomes extraordinary when it is no longer there.  When there is no longer a baby to feed at 3:00 a.m., or you can no longer physically do those dishes and laundry,  or the person we did the dishes with is no longer there.  That is when we realize how extraordinary those ordinary times truly were.

Those of us who are living with a serious illness,  may have a much more limited amount of time to enjoy the moments of our lives.  So it is more important to make everyday  moments treasured memories.  When you find you have a limited amount of time to squeeze in the vacations,  and celebrations,  then you must make special memories out of the ordinary days events.  A simple dinner with all of your kids all home at the same time becomes a part of your treasury of memories.  A concert you went to with a friend,  the hummingbird that hovered five inches from your face just looking at you one day, your cat lying on your lap, that movie you went to with your kids,  all go into your treasury of extraordinary memories.  What you learn from appreciating the ordinary,  is that it doesn’t take a special event to be a special day.  It’s nice to have a special event to look forward to,  especially if you are enjoying poor health (can you enjoy poor health??… another blog post).   But,  the everyday can be just as special.

Some of my favorite memories are of time spent with my grandparents,  and even the details of their homes.  I can close my eyes and see every detail of their houses,  from the front door doorknob to the bedrooms,  and everything in between.  Certainly,  in the time it took to memorize those details,  I didn’t realize that one day they would seem so treasured,  but they certainly are.  I didn’t realize at the time that I would one day enjoy the memory of a simple picnic enjoyed outdoors with my grandparents and family.  The flies swarming around my mamaw’s  deliciously cooked  food,  and fresh garden tomatoes that she and my papaw grew in their yearly garden.  For often it’s the everyday memories that are the most treasured. when the loved ones attached to them are no longer there to make new memories.

So,  what the point of this post is,  is to not wait for a special occasion to take the photos,  or really enjoy your day.  Enjoy the everyday.  Enjoy something as ordinary as even doing your dishes,  or just reading a book,  etc… Because one day you may long for those ordinary parts of life. The memory of doing dishes with my grandmother,  was such a boring,  everyday thing,  but now I often remember doing the dishes with her.  She washed,  I dried.  She chatted away about everyday things that made up her week.  Me, tugging at her shirt,  which constantly crept up her back and settled into her pants waistband.  It was a daily ritual whenever I visited.  Lunch, and dinner, the same thing,  over and over.  Just another day, the ordinary, now an extraordinary memory.

 

56. Surviving

You know you are a survivor when it is the anniversary month of your diagnosis,  and you suddenly realize that you had forgotten all about it!  Happy Anniversary to me!  I was diagnosed with ALS 20 years ago this month.  I was supposed to have kicked the bucket, so to speak,  somewhere between twelve and fifteen years ago.  Needless to say,  doctors are not always right.  Don’t get me wrong,  I love my doctors (and I have several),  but they don’t know everything.  Just because you’re terminal doesn’t mean you can’t live a happy,  longer than expected life.

“At first I was afraid, I was petrified…”.  This snippet of the popular song by Gloria Gaynor must be read as if she was singing it to get the full effect.  A few days have made me think of this song,  the day I was diagnosed with ALS,  and the last inauguration day are two that come to mind.  That is one good thing about living with a serious illness, things that may have once seemed horrible or insurmountable, are no longer that big of a deal. Because, if you can live with/survive a serious illness, then you can easily live with/survive anything!  Not only will you survive, but you can be happy as well,  because being happy is a choice and has very little to do with what is going on around you.  You can’t know what you want,  until you know for sure what you don’t want.  Sure, you can think you don’t want to be ill,  but believe me,  once you are,  you really, really realize what you don’t and do want!  Not only in terms of what good health means,  but what is important in your life.  What you want to do for work.  Who you want to spend your time with,  etc… 

This blog post may be unusually short,  because this time I am keeping it short and sweet.  You can survive, whatever life throws at you,  and you can be happy doing it!  I am proof.  You’re welcome.