19. Life’s Been Good To Me So Far

 

Joe Walsh was spot on with his song, “Life’s Been Good  “.  I would say, for sure, life’s been good!  Except, I guess, for the whole ALS thing, and the golf ball sized kidney stone, that wasn’t much fun.  But we are focusing on the good stuff in this blog post.  If you listen to the lyrics, they say,

I can’t complain, but sometimes I still do.  Life’s been good to me so far.

I think it’s okay to do a little complaining.  My blog posts may not show it, but I probably meet my quota on complaints most days.  Just ask my kids, I’m sure they would say that I am a complainer.  The trick is, to know when to stop your complaining and thank your lucky stars.

I think Lou Gerhig got it right too, when he uttered  those now infamous words,

 “Fans, for the past two weeks you have been reading about the bad break I got. Yet today I consider myself the luckiest man on the face of this earth.”  

Lou Gehrig realized how many good things he had going in his life.  It’s all about being grateful for what you have. No matter how little you might think you have going for you, start listing it all and it will add up faster than you might think.  Oprah suggests you keep a gratitude journal. Write down something , or a few things, every evening that you were grateful for that day. Gratitude for what you have can change your life. Not just your outlook on life, but your entire life. A Course In Miracles says, a miracle is when a shift in your outlook occurs.  That’s how a person, who is supposed to be dying of cancer, can be truly happier than their neighbor who has their health and enough money to last a long lifetime.  My outlook has definitely shifted in the last several years.  I went from, “Oh no, I have ALS” to, “Yes, I have ALS”, to, “Oh yea, I have ALS”.  I consider every single day I am still here a miracle, and try to focus on life and not ALS.
Gratitude is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.  What are you grateful for today?

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13. Forget About It

Forget about it! Said in your best mobster (think Tony Soprano or Mickey Blue Eyes ) voice.  We live in a world where the things you focus on are the things that manifest in your life. Did you ever notice when you try and try to save up money for something you really want, how hard it can be? Your thoughts migrate towards your lack of money. Your focus on your lack of money continues to bring about a shortage of funds.

Have you heard the saying, “The rich get richer and the poor get poorer”. While it’s just a saying, there may be some truth to it. It is, after all, very difficult to think about anything other than your absence of money, when money is what you really need. It is much easier to envision always having enough money when you already possess money. Likewise with your health, and everything else in your life. The more you concentrate on something, the more you receive exactly
what you are concentrating on. So, if you are sick, the more you talk and think about your illness, the more it clings to you. If you no longer want to be struggling with something, forget about what you don’t have, and focus on how great you will feel when you have what you want. I know, that’s easier said than done, especially with health issues. You still have to deal with doctors, tests, treatments and medications probably on a daily basis. so your illness is on your mind often.

My favorite author, Pam Grout, offers a series of simple experiments to help us understand just how the universe works, in her book, E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401938906/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_EHtwzbKFXBYSC

 She does a much better job of explaining things than I could, so I suggest you read her book.  But, the gist of it is that God (or whatever you prefer …Mother Earth, the Great Spirit, etc) is always listening and gives you what you are focused on in life.  So, we need to focus on what we want and forget about what we don’t want, i.e. probably your current situation.  Like I said, she does a much better job of explaining it. But I think she is spot on!  I have done most of her experiments, and have received everything from a bright blue butterfly to a seahorse, to a surprise credit of $24.85, to a write off of a student loan (a total surprise)!  

I don’t have this all figured out, I do, after all, still have ALS.  But, I try not to focus on that, and instead, focus on all the awesomeness in life and expect more amazing things to come my way.

11. It’s The End Of The World As We Know It, And I Feel Fine 

A popular (well, popular back in the day) song by R.E.M., it describes how I feel when I watch or read the news. If I don’t let all that bad news stress me out, that is. Watch any news program, and after five or ten minutes you will start to believe that the world has gone to hell in a hand basket! Apparently bad news is more interesting than good news,at least that’s what we have been conditioned to believe. With the news reporting much, much more bad news than good, is it any wonder people struggle with depression and live in fear of the world around them? The evening news reports on as many bad things as they can squeeze into their allotted amount of time, adds in a weather report, and sports , and throws in just one good story before the news ends. Which never really happens, does it? The news ending, I mean. I remember , back in the old days, if you wanted to catch up on the news you read the daily newspaper or watched the news at noon,5:00, or 11:00. Only.  Now, we have access to bad news 24 hours a day. And, thanks to technology and social media, we are bombarded with negative news.

I am convinced that there aren’t any more bad things happening in the world than there always have been. We just hear about them more than ever before. I also believe that the good things that happen far outweigh the bad. We just don’t hear about them nearly enough. Take a minute or two each day to look through Facebook or Instagram, or whatever site you like, and look at all the good things happening ( good things only) in the lives of your family and friends. Think about the good things in your life, and the good will begin to outweigh the bad.  Then, even when the news is filled with stories that are bleek and depressing, you will know that those are not the only stories to be told, and you’ feel fine.

10. Think Good Thoughts, Always 

It takes no more energy to think a good thought than it does to think a bad, or negative thought.  Yet, those negative thoughts seem to come so much more easily.  When someone cuts you off as you are driving down the road, doesn’t it instantly make you mad?  In a flash, your head fills with four letter words.  It is, however, entirely possible that the person who just cut you off was not just being an ass because they don’t care about anyone else.  Maybe they just found out that their mother was in a horrible accident, and they are rushing to the hospital.  You never know.  Why then, did they give you the finger as they cut you off?  Well, maybe they are an ass, whose mother was just in a horrible accident.  The point is, why not choose the better thought?  Not that their mother being in a wreck is good, but the fact that they maybe kind of had a reason for their actions.  I guarantee you will be happier and have a better day, if you choose to stay positive.  Shouldn’t that be a goal for us everyday, to have a good day?

Have you ever had a day when everything seems to go wrong? You have an appointment, or have to get to work, and maybe you over slept, and you couldn’t find your car keys and traffic was bad, so you were late to your appointment or to work. No matter what the scenario, instead of stressing out over everything that went wrong, try just ignoring it all and consider the idea that everything just went right. Maybe by being slowed down at every turn and causing you to be late, it also meant that you avoided hitting a deer that would have crossed your path if you had been on time. You never know.  So what if you are a few minutes late. I don’t think you would want to make it a habit, but, chill out (see blog post 7) and choose to think about your day in a more positive way.

I’m not always a glass half full kind of person.  Some days, all I have is a ring on the coffee table where my glass used to be.  I think that came from Roseanne Barr, years ago, and I think she was spot on.  But whenever you can, give yourself a break from the negative in your life and consciously choose good thoughts.