Take a break from whatever is bothering you, and feel good today. Forget about your problems for just one day, or one hour, if that’s all you can handle right now. Even one minute. Maybe start with one minute and then go for two minutes, then five or ten minutes. Work your way up from there. Just focus on feeling good. Focus on any thoughts that feel good. If you have pain in your back, and you think, oh my back hurts so bad! That thought doesn’t do anything to help you feel better, does it? When you are thinking the thought, it may feel accurate, but it doesn’t make you feel better. But, let’s say you instead think, oh, wouldn’t it be nice if I woke up tomorrow and my back felt better. Doesn’t that thought, in itself just feel like a better thought? Your back probably won’t feel any better in that moment, but the thought of it feeling better at some point in the future feels good. Pay attention to your thoughts, because whatever you are thinking about is what finds its way into your life. If you are constantly thinking about things you don’t like, things you don’t like will constantly be introduced into your life.
When you are having money issues, specifically not enough money. Try, just for a couple of minutes, thinking good thoughts about money. Did you ever notice how it seems so easy for people with a lot of money to make more money? Maybe it’s because they are focusing on their abundance of money, so they are attracting more money. I know, it’s easier said than done to feel good about money when you have none, but that is what you need to do. When you think about how you have so little money and how you wish you could have more, you are concentrating on your lack of money. Instead, try thinking in terms of the positive. Don’t think about how you wish you didn’t have so many bills, because you are still focusing on the lack of money to pay the bills, and the debt. Instead, think about how nice it would feel if you had all the money you needed to pay all of your bills off. Doesn’t that thought, in itself feel better?
You know if a thought feels good or bad by the way you feel when you think it. If you’re thinking about how tired you are and how you have so much to do that you’ll never get done, your stomach may feel a little tight, or upset, or maybe you get a pain in your back, or your head might start to pound a little. There will be some sign that your body isn’t in love with that thought. But, if you are thinking about how great it will feel to get home and see what your kids are doing, or maybe how great it will be to finish up that project you have been meaning to work on, how you will feel relieved when you have finished and will feel a sense of accomplishment. Those are good feeling thoughts, and your body may feel relaxed, or you may feel happy, or content. You might find yourself excited to get started on your project. Feel the difference?
Try to take some baby steps in just beginning to notice what thoughts you are thinking. Replace those negative thoughts with happier, positive thoughts and feelings. Always think in terms of the positive instead of the negative. If you don’t want something to happen, don’t think over and over again about how you don’t want it to happen, because you are still focused on what you don’t want. Instead, focus on what you do want! If you wish that you wouldn’t get the flu this year, but you keep thinking about how you don’t want to get the flu. You get your flu shot, and you really hope it works. You notice when anyone at your work is absent, and wonder if they caught the flu. You hear about how many people have been diagnosed with the flu that week on the news. You think well maybe you won’t get it. And, then after two or three months of this, guess what,? You get the flu! Or, maybe you don’t. But, I believe that your chances are a lot better that you don’t get sick, if you were to simply switch your focus to the hope of being healthy, and feeling good. Don’t think about the flu at all. Think in terms of the positive (health), instead of the negative (flu).
If you have a bad day at work, and on your drive home you continue to go over everything in your mind that went wrong in your day, you will continue to feel bad, even though your work day is over. Instead, try to find some happier thoughts to focus on. Maybe you could think about how good it will feel to get home. Maybe just focus on how good it feels to be driving and not at work. Maybe you can turn on the radio and focus on nothing except driving and the music playing. Those would all be better feeling thoughts than thoughts about your bad day.
I recently had a weird freak type of accidental thing happen to me. I was sitting in my chaise lounge chair with my computer on my table in front of me, and surfing the internet when the sun hit our truck outside and was suddenly shining directly into my eyes. I use an eyegaze system to control my computer, and it quit working because of the sun hitting my eyes. I bent my head this way and that, trying to get it to work, and suddenly found myself with my head slumped forward and my chin on my chest. My neck muscles weren’t strong enough to lift my head up. I was stuck. I had my computer right there, but couldn’t see it enough to type. I had my phone, but because my chin was on my chest, I couldn’t talk enough to ask Siri to call anyone. My husband was outside mowing. All I could do was wait. I could have spiraled into thoughts about how much my neck was beginning to hurt, and how long I might have to wait until my husband came back inside. But, I tried to stay positive. I thought that the situation was the perfect opportunity to try a little meditation. I never seem to be able to find time for it, so I gave that a go. Then, after a full two minutes of meditation (I’m guessing), I tried thinking about how good I would feel when I heard the lawnmower pull up to the garage. I thought about the relief I would feel when this was all over. How good I would feel when I heard my husband open the door to the utility room, and then the door to the hall way. I focused on how good it would feel when he lifted my head back up. Did any of that help to get my head up any faster? No. But, you know what? The time I spent with my head stuck in a horribly uncomfortable position went by amazingly quickly. It was an hour and ten minutes. It felt more like twenty minutes. I also feel like I recovered really well from the whole ordeal. Normally any fall or accident like that would affect me for days. This time, not so much. So, my positive attitude made all the difference. And, it gave me a good ending to my blog post! Try to think in the positive, no matter what is going on in your life right now, and see if it makes a difference for you too!