12. Just Do It 

Sometimes, the longer you stay in your house because you don’t feel well, the easier it becomes to never go out.  I don’t think you can really understand that unless you’ve lived with a long term illness.  I remember a life, long ago, when I was always on the go.  Both before and after their were kids to take up my time, I was always busy, probably too busy.  I can remember a time when I owned a computer, but rarely had the time to use it.  My computer and IPhone are now what link me to the world outside my house. 

When you have a serious illness, you may find yourself leaving your house less and less, the longer you are sick.  I was just too tired to go out much at first.  Then everything became so hard, and took so much longer than it used to, it hardly seemed worth the effort required to go anywhere.  Add to that, pain, if it’s below 50 degrees.  Having a comfortable chair at home with warm blankets in the winter, a nice breeze (or air conditioning) in the summertime, all add up to staying home.  A lot.  In the winter, I don’t go anywhere for weeks, sometimes (depending on the weather) months at a time.  When warmer weather arrives, I get out more often.  Sometimes you have to force yourself to go out into the world.  Just do it.  No matter how uncomfortable you may be, physically and mentally, don’t let yourself go all Grey Gardens.  Just do it.  I always feel better after getting out of the house for a bit, even if I don’t really go anywhere, or if my outing doesn’t go smoothly.  I went out one day earlier this year, and practically knocked myself out (I had a little accidental help) hitting my head as I got into the car.  That being said, even with the slight concussion (I’m guessing), I was glad I went out for a few hours.

I remember being out one day, many years ago.  We had eaten dinner at Applebee’s, and were leaving our table, when a man sitting at a nearby table looked at us and said, “Good for you , going out! It might be hard, but you keep going out!”  I have no idea who he was, or why he said that, but he was right.  No matter how hard it is, you have to get out and get a little vitamin D.  Even if you don’t go any further than out the front door.  Just do it.  I guarantee (mostly) you’ll be glad you did.

11. It’s The End Of The World As We Know It, And I Feel Fine 

A popular (well, popular back in the day) song by R.E.M., it describes how I feel when I watch or read the news. If I don’t let all that bad news stress me out, that is. Watch any news program, and after five or ten minutes you will start to believe that the world has gone to hell in a hand basket! Apparently bad news is more interesting than good news,at least that’s what we have been conditioned to believe. With the news reporting much, much more bad news than good, is it any wonder people struggle with depression and live in fear of the world around them? The evening news reports on as many bad things as they can squeeze into their allotted amount of time, adds in a weather report, and sports , and throws in just one good story before the news ends. Which never really happens, does it? The news ending, I mean. I remember , back in the old days, if you wanted to catch up on the news you read the daily newspaper or watched the news at noon,5:00, or 11:00. Only.  Now, we have access to bad news 24 hours a day. And, thanks to technology and social media, we are bombarded with negative news.

I am convinced that there aren’t any more bad things happening in the world than there always have been. We just hear about them more than ever before. I also believe that the good things that happen far outweigh the bad. We just don’t hear about them nearly enough. Take a minute or two each day to look through Facebook or Instagram, or whatever site you like, and look at all the good things happening ( good things only) in the lives of your family and friends. Think about the good things in your life, and the good will begin to outweigh the bad.  Then, even when the news is filled with stories that are bleek and depressing, you will know that those are not the only stories to be told, and you’ feel fine.

10. Think Good Thoughts, Always 

It takes no more energy to think a good thought than it does to think a bad, or negative thought.  Yet, those negative thoughts seem to come so much more easily.  When someone cuts you off as you are driving down the road, doesn’t it instantly make you mad?  In a flash, your head fills with four letter words.  It is, however, entirely possible that the person who just cut you off was not just being an ass because they don’t care about anyone else.  Maybe they just found out that their mother was in a horrible accident, and they are rushing to the hospital.  You never know.  Why then, did they give you the finger as they cut you off?  Well, maybe they are an ass, whose mother was just in a horrible accident.  The point is, why not choose the better thought?  Not that their mother being in a wreck is good, but the fact that they maybe kind of had a reason for their actions.  I guarantee you will be happier and have a better day, if you choose to stay positive.  Shouldn’t that be a goal for us everyday, to have a good day?

Have you ever had a day when everything seems to go wrong? You have an appointment, or have to get to work, and maybe you over slept, and you couldn’t find your car keys and traffic was bad, so you were late to your appointment or to work. No matter what the scenario, instead of stressing out over everything that went wrong, try just ignoring it all and consider the idea that everything just went right. Maybe by being slowed down at every turn and causing you to be late, it also meant that you avoided hitting a deer that would have crossed your path if you had been on time. You never know.  So what if you are a few minutes late. I don’t think you would want to make it a habit, but, chill out (see blog post 7) and choose to think about your day in a more positive way.

I’m not always a glass half full kind of person.  Some days, all I have is a ring on the coffee table where my glass used to be.  I think that came from Roseanne Barr, years ago, and I think she was spot on.  But whenever you can, give yourself a break from the negative in your life and consciously choose good thoughts.

9. Living In Thanks 

I remember dinners at my grandmothers house usually began with a prayer of thanks. As a little kid, that was probably the only time I stopped to think about what I was grateful for, other than at church on Sunday’s and while I was opening up my gifts on birthdays and at Christmas. It has taken me years to get into the habit of not just giving thanks, but living in thanks. Living in thanks is easier said than done. When you are in a good mood it is easy to sit back and think of things you are grateful for. It gets harder when nothing seems to be going right. It is hard to feel grateful when your only source of entertainment and link to the world outside your house is the internet, and your internet is down. It might, however, cause you to be extra grateful when it’s actually working. It may even allow you the time you would have normally spent scrolling through your Facebook newsfeed to do something else, like write a blog post about how grateful you are.

Writing down three things you are grateful for every day is a good way to get started living in thanks.  If you can’t write them down, at least stop and think of three things. It can be anything at all. Something good that just happened, or maybe the sun is shining outside, or maybe your new puppy only had four accidents that day instead of the usual five. If you can keep a list or journal of what you are grateful for, when things aren’t going so well, you might feel better if you read through all the great things that have happened in the past. 

When something goes wrong, I am trying to get into the habit of stopping in that moment to be grateful.  One day, not so long ago,  as I stood up at the toilet after having left my sample (required for my refill of pain medication) in the container on the toilet, as that plastic container stuck to my leg and the contents spilled out onto the floor, I was instantly grateful that this happened in my bathroom and not the bathroom of the doctors office. I may have even been a little bit grateful that I wasn’t able to (didn’t have to) clean it up. There’s always something to be grateful for, no matter what the situation. We just have to get into the habit of tuning in on the good stuff.

My favorite author, Pam Grout, wrote a book called, Thank & Grow Rich: A 30-Day Experiment in Shameless Gratitude and Unabashed Joy. 

It’s one of my all time favorite books. Pam believes that when you live in gratitude, you are living in the frequency of miracles. I know that when I focus on the good things in life and expect more amazing things to show up, they do.  If you tune in to a radio station that plays all rap music, and you want to hear classic rock, what will you get?  Rap.  Sure, every once in a while a classic, like “Walk This Way” will play, but you will mostly just get more of what you are tuned into.  So, if you want to see more good things happen in your life, quit focusing on the not so good things, and tune in to all of the awesomeness already happening in your life and be ready for more.