Okay, so let’s work on our stories! When someone says, “How are you doing?”, what is your normal answer? I would always go to my health to answer. I might say, “I’m ok“, but, in my mind, I’m going over the list of what isn’t working for me. My breathing is rough, my body aches and hurts. The list is pretty long. I might add things about my family and their problems, job uncertainty right now, in light of Covid19 affecting everything. But, I want to try to change that story. Are you up for an experiment?!?!
The next time someone says, “How are you doing?”, let that be your reminder to stop the automatic response, and think about what you say. Watch your choice of words. Talk about what is working for you. Maybe if you are sick of being stuck in the house, say, “Well, I’ve had plenty of time to get things done that I ‘ve been meaning to get around to for a long time!” Whatever you want to say, flip it around and talk about the good aspects. I would say, instead of my usual about my breathing being tough, or hard to breath, I would try to say, “I can’t believe how well my body is holding up through all that it’s going through! I am still eating, no feeding tube! I am still breathing! No ventilator!” (or at least think it in my head when I reply, ok.) Focus on the good stuff!
If you have no job, maybe you could focus on what you do have. When someone asks, “Have you found a new job yet?”, you can say, “I don’t want to talk about that, but I just watched the funniest movie, or I am feeling great because I’m sleeping in every day!” Talk about what is working for you.
When I woke up this morning (okay, maybe it was afternoon), I thought to myself something along the lines of, “Thank you to my mind for those awesome dreams! How do you/I come up with this stuff?? Thank you body for resting so well, I hope it helped you. Sending love to my bladder for working so well all night long! ” I swear, I felt just a little bit better than I usually do when I get up out of bed. I wouldn’t recommend saving any of that out loud, but who cares what you think to yourself!? If it could actually help, then what have you got to lose? Just try it! Try it for a week, and see how you feel. I can almost promise you’ll notice a difference. Then if you do, you’ll have even more things to thank yourself for! Even more things to be grateful for, and to focus on! Let it pile up. Let it pile up until your list is so long you can’t even remember all the good things that are going on in your life. Even better, maybe you won’t be able to think of any negative things about your life! Let’s get started, right NOW!! So, how are you doing today?